I am not trying to change what you believe.  JESUS CHRIST will have to do that, and he will if you ask him, but most have a made up mind and don't want the facts. If you are saved I highly recommend a book by Dr. John R. Rice on divorce and remarriage. Because of this painful subject and controversy about divorce I want to help you if this has happened in your life. I am offering you some St. Johnny's Pain Relievers.

First I want you to know that divorce is not the unpardonable sin. There is forgiveness.  Second, if you have gotten a divorce and then got saved, ALL ,ALL, sins have been forgiven. Read your Father's word your self in 1John 1:7 But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin. Read AND THE BLOOD OF JESUS CLEANSETH FROM ALL SIN. All, all, all, in the greek is all. Now don't you listen to those stupid pharisees that hurt people, telling them that "GOD will forgive your dope and murder and whoremongering but not divorce..."  A man ought to get out of the ministry if he believes that. Remember also when you get saved your sins are forgiven, past, present, and future. You were judged at the cross, glory to GOD.  

Now the Scriptures are of no private interpretation, so here are just a few things that might help your pain. You have heard it said that GOD puts all marriages together?  If you believe this, which is ok if you want to. I know that GOD put Adam and Eve together but it's hard for me to fathom GOD putting the devil's children together in Holy matrimony. Those like Jerry Lee Lewis and his thirteen year old cousin and those people who get married on the Jerry Springer show and these mail order brides that want to come to America.  In both testaments God said for believers not to marry an unbeliever. So, do you think GOD looked down from Heaven and said "I am going to put Micheal Jackson (the pedophile) and Lisa Marie Presley together or Sonny And Cher and Adolph Hitler and Eva Braun together."

If you think that, then I say your god is my devil. I hope you have used this all as a pain reliever. I hope two things have stopped some of the pain. Remember Number one, there is forgiveness through the blood and what is forgiven by GOD is forgotten ,( not by Preachers or family), but CHRIST is all that matters. Number two I can not see where GOD puts buddhist together and rag heads and chinese together, or the unsaved God does not even know Luke 13:27 But he shall say, I tell you, I know you not whence ye are; depart from me, all ye workers of iniquity.

JESUS told You WHAT GOD HATH JOINED TOGETHER, THAT IS TWO SAVED PEOPLE, GOD is not joining all this crowd together.  Now this is my belief and it is your choice if you do not want this truth. Do you remember the question the Pharisees Asked JESUS about putting their wives away?  Now, this is simple if you read Matthew 5:31 It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: Now if you want help maybe this will help.  Over and over is the question we want to put our wives away and JESUS IF YOU PUT HER AWAY GIVE HER A WRITTEN BILL OF DIVORCE.  IF NOT AND SHE MARRIES SOMEBODY ELSE SHE IS COMMITTING ADULTERY.  "Divorce" and "Put or send away" are not the same thing.  A man who wanted to divorce his wife had to do two things. He had to write her a bill of divorcement and then send her away or put her away, Deuteronomy 24:1-4, Mark 10:4. A man who found that his wife had been unfaithful to him did not write her a bill of divorcement as she and the other man were stoned. Malachi and Matthew chapter five were all about men who were putting or sending away their wives without just cause. Men were putting away their wives without writing a bill of divorcement even though their wives were not guilty of adultery. God hates the putting away because it always involves sin. In one case the sin of the wife for being unfaithful, and in the other the sin of the husband for putting his wife away without just cause or a bill of divorce. The act of putting away a wife without a bill of divorcement is equivalent to separation. The man and woman are still married. Now remember there is a difference in putting away and divorce in the old testament please read this close and borrow or buy a Strong's Concordance and read in the hebrew section #7971 Mal 2:16 For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for [one] covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously::  Do you see divorce in Strong's?, no you do not.. Now I am not trying to convince nobody.  I am against divorce but just read for yourself . Now if there can be no divorce then ask yourself why did JESUS CHRIST say EXCEPT for Fornication in Matt 19:9?  Now I am just trying not to justify divorce but to help you that are punished every Sunday for something that is under the blood.  Tell those who insinuate you can not be forgiven for the tradgedy of divorce in your life to drop dead.  Remember now putting away or divorce is the question . It is as simple as picking your nose but it's like JESUS said in Mat 19:11 But he said unto them, All [men] cannot receive this saying, save [they] to whom it is given. In others words, some men cannot understand this thing about divorce, but this scripture is just to help you that are hurting and looking for help.

Now the main thing they scream about is "GOD hates DIVORCE"  They embarrass you before your children and other members like your are a second class christian.  Well I,oh, St. Johnny's pain relievers are starting to kick in.

Now the problem is not GOD hating divorce, the problem is the Preachers hating the divorced. First Are you a Jew??  I know that you are not so you will not find out what it means for your husband to die, then you will be free to marry. Oh I know this gospill will work.  See you have been misdiagnosed by these little so called "Doctor's"  Let Dr. Jesus teach you now the truth about who is is man that has to die and who is the woman.  

This study was developed to help divorced people who have been given a Roman Catholic teaching adopted by most Baptists and other self-righteous pastors, who believe once divorced, a Christian is doomed to a life of loneliness. Nothing could be further from the truth. In the very beginning of the Bible God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone."  He has not changed his mind or repented. While God in no way favors divorce, he does not relegate everyone who has suffered this heartbreaking event to remain celibate for the rest of their earthly sojourn. Many today have suffered in this matter of divorce. It is a heart rending experience. For new believers or those whose knowledge of the scriptures is weak  But those who in heart truly desire the Lord's will, the problem is even tougher.

Can I, a person who has never been divorced, marry someone who has been (and vice aversa)?  Or: can I, a divorced person, marry someone else who has been divorced? Could someone who feels called to the ministry marry a divorced person. The list of questions goes on and on with one common denominator. Is marriage only for those persons who have never divorced?  If I have been divorced, whether or not it was my own fault, am I then consigned to being alone the rest of my life? The typical answer from fundamental pastors is that once divorced remarriage is out of the question, and that if you remarry, you or your spouse is living in adultery. Usually the Scriptures quoted are: Romans 7:2,3 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. >From this passage the answer given is that, once divorced there are no other options. The woman that has been divorced cannot remarry. But, in the passage in Deuteronomy, Which Paul refers to in this passage in Romans,( see below) the Bible is not talking about a divorced woman, but rather an adulteress woman. An Old Testament woman had no divorce options. The Old Testament woman was bound by the law as long as he was alive. If she "stepped" out on him, or left and married another man, she was an adulteress. (Which is the definition of adultery - a married person being unfaithful to their spouse). The LAW says the woman cannot marry another man until her husband is dead. (Our present day civil laws say the same thing!) We will show why this scripture does not teach what many believe it does, and then show that although Paul does not recommend divorce or remarriage, it is permitted, and even encouraged in some cases.

So, what does the Bible say, and why have so many bought into the "no re-marriage" teaching? Look at the passage above. It sounds pretty convincing, doesn't it! "The law says . . !". The problem is that the whole quotation is taken out of context. "What is the context?",  you say. Let's look. I will add emphasis is some places by using underline Romans 7:1 Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? 2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. 4 wherefore, my brethren, ye also are become dead to the law by the body of Christ; that ye should be married to another, even to him who is raised from the dead, that we should bring forth fruit unto God. Notice what was missed! One, the passage is written to them that "know the law". Notice also that it has "dominion" over the man as long as he lives. These are Hebrew Christians - in other words, Hebrew Christians who know " the law" that Paul is addressing. They also know that they have been delivered from the law! It no longer has DOMINION over them! (If it does - now - we are all still under bondage to every jot and tittle of it!) What "law" is he talking about? He is referring to the Mosaic Law given to Israel, and it was gracious compared to today's modern understanding. Notice: Deuteronomy 24:1 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. Deuteronomy 24:2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife. She could re-marry here even if she were the cause of the divorce!

So then, what is the Scriptures saying and what is it not saying here in Romans 7? Under the Old Testament system there is no situation in which a woman could divorce her husband. When he was dead she was then free. Paul was simply using this Old Testament truth to illustrate our death to the law and how that frees us to be "married" unto Christ. We, praise God, we are NOT under that law. Paul is simply illustrating our relationship under grace to the Lord Jesus Christ, to a bunch of Jewish Believers who know the law. Their familiarity with the law was confusing them. He says that in the same way an old testament woman who's husband was dead was free to remarry, believers are now DEAD to the law (get it!), and free to "Marry" Christ. Romans seven is not teaching anything in particular about divorce and remarriage, and It was not meant to bind Christians to an old testament rule. Rather it teaches the opposite! We are free from the law! The woman in the passage in Deuteronomy was an adulteress because she was fornicating with another man while still married(!) to her husband. That definition of adultery stands today! She was "stepping out" on him. She was not divorced. She could not divorce her husband, and if he divorced her she could remarry! If she married another while still married to a husband, she was an adulteress. Some will say that couldn't happen. That is naive. It happens all the time.

Christ ministered under the law while teaching Israel the rules under which his millennial kingdom would be administered. That is what, for instance, the book of Matthew is all about. It is about the one who was the King of the Jews. It opens in chapter 2 with wise men asking: "Where is he that is born King of the Jews?" Matthew preaches a kingdom gospel. It is quite a bit different from what Paul teaches us. When Christ healed people, he often instructed them to offer the sacrifice that Moses commanded to the priest. His ministry was primarily to Israel.  Matthew 15:24 "But he answered and said, I am not sent but unto the lost sheep of the house of Israel." That does not mean that we cannot gain understanding from what he said, it only means that we must be careful applying the Old Testament standards to our lives under the grace of God. Paul says, "Romans 15:16 That I should be the minister of Jesus Christ to the Gentiles. . ."

Divorce, then if we are going to look for instruction in this vital area, we should go where Paul deals with it directly, and not where he uses Old Testament law in an illustrative manner. Let's look at 1Corinthians chapter 7. I suggest you view the remainder of this page with your King James Bible open to the chapter. We will print selected portions here, but want you to be able to see the complete context. Let's start: 1Corinthians 7:8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. 9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. In order to understand the passage, you must: (1) believe the Book as it stands. (2) leave the meaning of the English words as they stand. What do they say? Verse 8 - say therefore to the unmarried and widows ... Is a divorced person married? Not according to the word of God. In the Old Testament example, when the husband gave the wife a divorce, she was no longer married. She could then become another man's wife. There is a peculiar line of thinking that makes the "unmarried person" in the verse a "never married person". While it is true that someone who has never married is "unmarried",  it is equally true that someone who has been divorced is "unmarried". What then saith the scriptures? 9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. What does the word burn mean? Go to hell? Of course not, it means to "burn" with longing or with lust! Paul simply says that if you can handle being single that's good, but if you can't, for heaven's sake, get married! That is the instruction given to an "unmarried" person, and there is no gender mentioned. In Christ "There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female. . ." Galatians 3:28

The next thing to understand, that is in this chapter is that Paul gives the direct will of God and the permissive will of God. You will notice that in verse 10 he says "And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:".  Is what Paul writes in this chapter as much Holy Scripture as what he quotes the Lord saying? Absolutely! But the Lord says the wife should not depart from her husband, and if she does (verse 11) she should remain unmarried. This seems like a contradiction of terms compared to verse 8. The answer lies in verse 6. 1Corinthians 7:6 But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment'. Paul was simply giving the Corinthians God's permissive will for those who found themselves with a longing which was built into the human race, and those with a burning to release built in physical desire in a way that would be within the will of God.

Let's go to verse 15 1Corinthians 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. Now, for illustration, suppose a brother wants to marry a divorced Christian lady who was abused and battered by her former husband. He is nervous about it. He wants to do the right thing. She divorced him for personal safety reasons. He was abusive and adulterous. Question: Did she leave her husband or did he leave her? On first sight it would appear she left him, but man looketh on the outward appearance, and God looketh on the heart. When Israel departed from the Lord, she did not leave physically, but in her heart. When this woman's husband abused her mentally and physically, he was the one who left her. His heart was with another woman. She is free in Christ to marry whomsoever she will, only in the Lord, and in her case by two reasons in the chapter. (1) verse 9, (look at it again!) and secondly verse 15. Now let's go a little further: " 1Corinthians 7:27 Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. 28 But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you. What do the above verses teach? Paul concludes this theme saying (I am going to paraphrase here) Are you married? Don't seek to be divorced. Are you divorced? Don't seek to get married. BUT if you are divorced, and you re-marry, YOU HAVE NOT SINNED. AND if a divorced man marries a virgin, he has not sinned. Now, last of all, some people come away from the whole chapter confused because Paul concluded the chapter with the verse we started with in Romans 7:  1Corinthians 7:39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord. 40 But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God. Is he contradicting everything he just said? Obviously not. He is simply saying that the law God gave in the old testament was not without practical value. She should stay with her husband. It should be "till death do us part".  BUT we are not under the law, and the entire chapter was written to deal with this problem. Read it carefully, and if you have been through this heartrending experience, and remarry or have already remarried.

Re-read verses 27 and 28, and don't let well meaning believers put you in bondage again to the law that Christ nailed to his cross. Please take the time to read the entire chapter carefully. If something I have written here is unclear, please email me and we can discuss it with an open heart and an open Bible. It is only my desire to help. Now I know this was a lot of reading but if you are hurting and in terrible pain you would not mind reading a medical journal to find out what was causing your pain. Now this does not scratch the surface and naturally there will be people not seeing it this way because of blindness. Now one reason I studied this is because I was in a rather large church on a sunday morning and the Pastor said this and I quote " If I knew there was a divorced man or woman here I would escort you out of the door" I thought, my the woman at the well that had been married five times would not be welcome here, but JESUS would take her in. I think about one out of every ten children are coming to church from broken homes and living with step parents. HEY, remember JESUS had a step dad but he honored him.

I think it's almost sickening when every thing about a divorced person is terrible but their money. Now preachers I am asking you, do not write me or bother me about what you believe.  I do not care what you believe and maybe if you study fifteen minutes and ask GOD to open your eyes you will have mercy and stop causing PAIN to the folks that come from broken homes. I am not defending divorce at all.  It is pitiful that many children and parents have to suffer from this and I want them to know they can be forgiven and not second class christians and they can come to GOD'S house and praise the Load without shame. I know St. Johnny's pain relievers are working on some right now.  I look at divorce as a death with hurt and pain and guilt and then go to church and have to suffer it all over again is not right.  But if you take this to heart it will comfort you and insulate you from the blind pharisee that loves to hurt the hurting people. Now take two St. Johnny's pain relievers and I will see you in Heaven.

The Pain of A Broken Church